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Well, it finally happened.  After 32 years of almost constant reading and eyestrain, I now need reading glasses. 

Luckily, Warby Parker has this amazing program. They send you five frames to try on for free, you pick a favorite, send everything back within five days, and they fix ‘em up with your prescription and an anti glare/anti scratch coating, then ship them to you.  Most frames are $95. 

I cannot decide. I am so not used to seeing my face in glasses… Do my 2 readers have an opinion?

(No one paid me to post this or anything.  Like anyone would endorse my makeup-free face & dirty pigtails in photobooth photos taken at work!)

MY FAVORITE CHICK LIT WRITER IS DEPRESSED AND IT SUCKS

As soon as I saw the title, I knew that Jessica Olien must be writing about Marian Keyes. Ms. Keyes openness about everything—including the crushing depression that she suffers—makes me feel like I know her intimately  and I wish I could do something to help her. Somewhat selfishly, because I want her to write more, and faster. I miss her.

This post on XOJane made me happy that others agree, and then sad again for Marian Keyes. Her books look silly, but they are just not. She is a brave, funny and truly gifted writer. 

Sidenote: XOJane (stupid name) had a kind of rocky start and I had some serious doubts, but I am in love now with half the staff, especially Cat and Emily.  They are also brave funny writer ladies!

Things to Which I am Looking Forward Right This Second.

-A one-year-anniversary vacation trip to Chicago, in a little more than a week

-Seeing my buddy Chad while there

-Packing for that trip, oh man, I love packing

-My first major league baseball game (Mets v. Cubs!)

-Drinks out with Paul and Harper and Darby tonight as part of an ongoing Keep Monday Awesome campaign

-More Deadwood season 1 arriving via Netflix tomorrow!

-Being able to wear cute shoes again after an ankle sprain this past Friday, maybe in like a month?

-The point when the bruise/sprain/cankle looks like a sunset!  So pretty!

-The red cabbage & pinto bean nachos Paul will likely make us for dinner

-Putting clean sheets on our bed in a few minutes

-Sleeping in the clean sheets, ooh

Helpful to me this week.

nprfreshair:

“Nobody tells this to people who are beginners, I wish someone told me. All of us who do creative work, we get into it because we have good taste. But there is this gap. For the first couple years you make stuff, it’s just not that good. It’s trying to be good, it has potential, but it’s not. But your taste, the thing that got you into the game, is still killer. And your taste is why your work disappoints you. A lot of people never get past this phase, they quit. Most people I know who do interesting, creative work went through years of this. We know our work doesn’t have this special thing that we want it to have. We all go through this. And if you are just starting out or you are still in this phase, you gotta know its normal and the most important thing you can do is do a lot of work. Put yourself on a deadline so that every week you will finish one story. It is only by going through a volume of work that you will close that gap, and your work will be as good as your ambitions. And I took longer to figure out how to do this than anyone I’ve ever met. It’s gonna take awhile. It’s normal to take awhile. You’ve just gotta fight your way through.”

Ira Glass (via nefffy)

My husband is totally fascinated by Nicolas Cage—most particularly Mr. Cage’s castles, his many wigs, and his career choices of the past several years.
I’m fascinated by Nicolas Cage’s brother/his brother’s cat/their motorcycle adventures together: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MZbzqUQ_n9g 
Also of note: Nicolas Cage took psychedelic mushrooms with his own cat once.  And then told David Letterman about it.  Obviously.

My husband is totally fascinated by Nicolas Cage—most particularly Mr. Cage’s castles, his many wigs, and his career choices of the past several years.

I’m fascinated by Nicolas Cage’s brother/his brother’s cat/their motorcycle adventures together: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MZbzqUQ_n9g 

Also of note: Nicolas Cage took psychedelic mushrooms with his own cat once.  And then told David Letterman about it.  Obviously.

The best dating advice I have ever given.

There’s a whole school of gentlemen who circle forever, fearing that
just over the horizon is a better place to land. I dated many of them,
a lot, over and over, throughout my teens and twenties and maybe a
little into my 30s too.

Dating and/or marrying this sort of forever-circling person would make
anyone very unhappy and possibly crazy, long term. Even the most
secure person would never be able to truly relax. Sometimes that sort
of niggling fear is sexy, and the drama and worry are intoxicating,
and you just cling harder, desire your object even more. Look how much
I want them to be mine, you think. Look how worthy I am of getting
that desirable, ungettable thing, please stay with me, O Circling
Person. They are forever the pursued, and you are the hunter and oh my
god, it sucks so hard. When they decide to smile on you it’s like YOU
HAVE WON and you’re drunk with your own power and victory (this sort
of dynamic means the sex is always amazing, because every time he
touches you, YOU ARE WINNING) until they turn away, moments later,
distracted by something that is probably not even SHINY.

Find the opposite sort of person, who you can always count on, who
truly behaves as though he is lucky to have found you and isn’t
plagued with doubts and what-ifs, he lives in each moment with you and
can’t wait to share things with you. Make sure you feel the same way,
and are not circling around yourself. Have a different kind of amazing
sex, because when you have it together, you both get to win every damn
time.

Choose to be with that person instead because you are both super
fantastic. Even though every logical human knows that there are no
guarantees, you both want to take the risk to tentatively step toward
an uncertain future together. Or at least keep hanging out without
mindfucking each other constantly because that shit is disrespectful
of others and also a big waste of everyone’s time and energy.

Durham!  I like a good post-industrial wasteland from time to time.  This was taken near http://www.trianglebrewery.com/, home of the best golden ale in NC.

Durham!  I like a good post-industrial wasteland from time to time.  This was taken near http://www.trianglebrewery.com/, home of the best golden ale in NC.

I’m a sucker for even parodies of Wes Anderson. 

(Source: Slate)

Creating a life that reflects your values and satisfies your soul is a rare achievement. In a culture that relentlessly promotes avarice and excess as the good life, a person happy doing his own work is usually considered an eccentric, if not a subversive. Ambition is only understood if it’s to rise to the top of some imaginary ladder of success. Someone who takes an undemanding job because it affords him the time to pursue other interests and activities is considered a flake. A person who abandons a career in order to stay home and raise children is considered not to be living up to his potential-as if a job title and salary are the sole measure of human worth. You’ll be told in a hundred ways, some subtle and some not, to keep climbing, and never be satisfied with where you are, who you are, and what you’re doing. There are a million ways to sell yourself out, and I guarantee you’ll hear about them.

Bill Watterson (via calvinnhobbes)

Bill Watterson, one of the best people ever.

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